You love your elderly mother dearly, but she lives far away, and with your own busy lifestyle you only see her a few times a year. Mom still lives alone in the house you grew up in, but now declining health is threatening her independence. You’ve been trying to help mom from a distance, but her condition is growing worse. Should you ask her to move closer to you? Once you approach her with the idea, don’t be surprised if her initial response is “no”. But don’t give up if you think it’s in her best interests. Instead, try these steps.