Of the over 40 million Americans who care for elderly loved ones every year, a vast majority do so by choice. And although serving as an unpaid caregiver is a labor of love, negative feelings like anger and resentment are possible. Allowed to fester, those pent-up emotions can affect the quality of life for both parties.  Thankfully, overcoming feelings of anger and resentment is possible by taking these steps. 

Sources of Caregiver Resentment 

Most informal caregivers will experience resentment at some point during their caregiving journey. Resentment is a natural human emotion that may be triggered by:

  • Not spending enough time with one’s spouse, partner or children
  • Shouldering most of the caregiving burden alone
  • Missing work because of caregiving duties
  • Feeling tired and run down
  • Financial difficulties resulting from out-of-pocket expenses
  • Not getting enough sleep
  • Feeling trapped
  • Feeling underappreciated or unappreciated

Along with other negative emotions like shame, guilt and frustration, resentment can make