Your elderly father lives alone and was recently hospitalized for a serious illness. Dad’s back at home again, but while he was in the hospital some “bad blood” between you and your siblings resurfaced. As a result, you’re now concerned that those old childhood rivalries will keep dad from getting the best care possible once his health starts to decline. What should you do? One of the best ways to ensure that all siblings will come together cohesively when caring for an aging parent is to choose a family spokesperson beforehand.

Sibling Rivalries are Common

In most families it’s not uncommon when an elderly parent is experiencing health problems for the old roles and rivalries of their adult children to present again. Siblings within a given family can show personality traits ranging from dominant and bossy, to apathetic and conflict-avoidance.

Feelings that may resurface during a family crisis include:

  • Fear and anxiety
  • Denial
  • Guilt
  • Apathy
  • Resentment and jealousy
  • Sadness and grief
  • Anger and hostility

Unfortunately, these repressed childhood emotions can interfere with what’s most important: ensuring the health and wellbeing of a loved one in need.

Family Spokesperson Responsibilities

Ensuring that your parent enjoys a higher quality of life as the aging process continues will go more efficiently by choosing a family spokesperson. The time to do so is before a health crisis, and not afterwards when emotions are running high. Some of the short or long-term care responsibilities that a family spokesperson might be asked to manage include:

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