Your elderly father has lived by himself at home ever since your mother passed away several years ago. Although he loves the freedom and independence aging in place affords him, lately you’ve noticed that living alone has become a challenge due to his deteriorating health.
Lately his appearance isn’t being kept up in the same manner as before, and he’s having trouble negotiating stairs. His memory lapses have also becoming more frequent to the point his safety and wellbeing are beginning to concern you. Therefore, you’re contemplating asking him to move into your home so that you can monitor his activities and provide care when needed. But caring for an aging parent in your home presents its own unique set of challenges which you will need to carefully consider first.
Impact on Family Dynamics
In most households today, both parents work outside the home. So, question number one when considering moving a senior into your home is: Who will be around to assist them? Next come multigenerational privacy and space concerns, notably if you have kids living in the house. What teenager wants to look up from their laptop to find grandma staring at them through their bedroom doorway? First, sit down with your spouse and kids to discuss what moving mom or dad in will mean, including family dynamic changes like:
- Personal Hygiene – You’ll have to balance your parent’s modesty needs with care. In some instances, it may be better to hire an outside caregiver for these activities if they aren’t comfortable having you help them bath, toilet and dress.